If you have a habit of trying to please other people while excluding yourself, you’re not alone. In this unique TED Talk —performed as a play — internet filmmaker Baron Ryan meditates upon the paradox of being a people pleaser — exploring the existential tug-of-war between belonging and self-respect. “Belonging and being liked, it feels good because it feels like surviving,” he says. “Only to survive into a life that’s not even your own.”